Embracing the perfectly imperfect life

Benefits while staying home for the next month during the pandemic

  1. Being more productive
  2. Working with sweat pants and no shoes
  3. Having Lexi (my dog) as a company while I work
  4. Cooking new recipes or trying to cook my favorite dishes
  5. No excuse to not work out
  6. Eat healthier and drink water
  7. Enough time to work on projects that have been on the to do list for awhile
  8. Time to take courses and read books
  9. Watch everything in Netflix and Amazon Prime
  10. by not using make up my skin will be flawless ; )
  11. Time is not an issue now

I am sure by the end of the lock down I will have a longer list.

Do you have a list of benefits? If you do not .. you still have time to make one.

Respecting Standards

Throughout the years, I have broken some of my standards to make other people happy so they will like me or be with me.  Years passed by, and I started getting wiser,  I started learning from my lessons. Yes .. tough like hell, but hey, I am here with my head up and keep going. Life is not easy because after experience any situation in your life then a new situation with tiny differences from the situation before makes you wonder if you should keep going or walk away. 

Since I moved to NY 18 years ago, I had to confront every situation by myself, so I didn’t have a choice, I couldn’t give up cause I came too far to disappoint myself or others. Yes! I cared way too much what others thought of me. I still do sometimes, but I am getting better at it. 

I have standards for many situations, but the two most important are friendships and relationships. I am a sucker for making friends or partners happy no matter how I feel.  I used to do anything for them even break my standards cause I feel bad, responsible for their happiness thinking that I was going to mess up their time or life if I keep my standards in place… later I understood that many of them were doing whatever they need to achieve what they were looking for because at the end people want things on their terms, then is when I decided that I will respect my standards no matter what because respecting my rules is respecting who I am.

A year ago, I moved from Astoria, Queens to Westchester, NY. It was a great decision because I moved in with two of my best friends, who I can proudly call family. But I had the time to look inside me and find good and bad things. I focused on myself and start doing things that when I was younger people used to tell me I was not good at it, like drawing, singing, It was a year that made me growth internally and mentally. 

Now when I am in a position that I need to decide to break any of my standards I stop and think if it is going to be worth it, because if it is not, I would rather say no for more that makes me lose someone from life.  At the end the person I should be taking care always is me. 

A little bit of my last 43 years

On December 31, 1975, around 2 pm I was born in Lima, Peru, I became the third kid in my family but not the last one. I stayed in Lima until I was 25 when I decided to move to the United States to expand my horizons. So I moved to New York City, and I couldn’t have chosen a better place to do this. I instantly fell in love with the city; the captivating people, the enchanting architecture, and the spectacular landscapes hiding just beyond the city’s borders.

At first, I planned to stay only for three years, but then different opportunities and situations made me extend my time in NY. I have been leaving here for 18 years, I don’t regret my decisions but as we sometimes know decisions like this comes with sacrifices like been far from my family in Peru whom I miss every single day.

Moving to NY was not easy at all, but I decided that I will make it happen and 18 years later I can tell you it was worth every good and sad moment. From having a language barrier to get used to a new lifestyle and culture.

My biggest hobby is photography. I had always enjoyed taking pictures and had dabbled a bit in the past, but my passion grew a lot when I moved to NYC. I started working in I.T., which I keep doing until today and through my new friends and colleagues, began learning more about cameras and photography. For me, the most significant thing is letting the picture tell its own story, but of course, I can give you a hint if you need it : )

I do love and miss Peru, but at the same time, I know that NY has become a big part of who I am now. I am Peruvian with a twist of a new yorker for sure a nice mix.

Golden Anniversary

A year ago today, I was back home in Lima with my family getting ready to celebrate the 50 years of marriage of my parents.  It was a ceremony and party that we were preparing for a long time, but we never knew how big would end up being. Honestly,  the celebration was like a real wedding. Trust me when I say that at first my dad and mom wanted something small and intimate but then they decided to bring a wedding planner to help them to organize the whole event.
My parents got married when they were 19 years old. They had four kids my sister Pilar, my brother Javier, myself and after 13 my brother Saul. My siblings gave to my parents eight grandchildren (in the picture only appearing seven cause one of my nephews couldn’t come from Argentina.)
Celebrating with your parents their Golden Anniversary is like being at their wedding 50 years ago. It was an emotional and beautiful moment to spend with them and their friends who attend their wedding first wedding.
For sure this will be a memory that will hold an extraordinary moment in my life.
Today is their 51 years of marriage, and I wish them many years more.. Love them

The New Journey

Thanks for joining me! In this new journey, this is my first time trying to blog… So let’s see how I do. I decided to do this for two reasons. First, I always wanted to do it, so it is one of my new goals for 2019.  Second, I believe that someone out there might find useful or interesting what I want to share.

See you next time!

The only impossible journey is the one you never begin.
– Tony Robbins